How to Have a Difficult Conversation

We tend to avoid difficult conversations for many reasons. We may be afraid to start a fight; we may think we would be rejected or misunderstood; we don’t want to annoy; maybe the point we would like to make...

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Power Play: What to Do About Inequality in Your Relationship

Some relationships reflect differences in expression, ability, or effort. It’s possible to view these differences just as brief chapters in your larger, mutually loving story. However, there are other relationships which remain unbalanced for too long and aren’t fair; ever. In those...

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Relationships: What it Takes to Agree to Disagree

Stalemates happen. You and your partner have talked an issue to death. You’ve made your case. They’ve made theirs. So you say the words. “Alright, let’s just agree to disagree.” Seems like a good idea. It’s clearly a happier alternative to escalating emotion...

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The Top 7 Benefits of Being a Kinder Spouse

Remember when you couldn’t wait to lavish the one you loved with a million kindnesses, big and small? Once upon a time, the idea of being compassionate, thoughtful and self-sacrificing was not difficult. It wasn’t an imposition. It wasn’t an...

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When Your Depression Feels More Angry Than Sad

Are you hot-headed, irritated, and generally affected by the myriad of annoyances that pop up on a daily basis? Has it been this way for a while? Are your relationships starting to falter? Is your work life starting to...

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Burnout: Prevention and Recovery

About every month or two one or more of my clients suffers from Burnout. Burnout is not technically a clinical term, but one that is used to describe a state of emotional, mental and physical exhaustion that renders a person...

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How to Be More Assertive: The Top 10 Tips

Some folks see the world as being composed of basically 2 types of people: those who are aggressive or confrontational and those others who aren’t. Obviously, as in most things, there is a middle ground. However many people have a high...

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Overcoming Resentments: The Path to Freedom and Better Health

How Resentments Hurt You Some people spend too much time thinking about what bad things may have been done to them. They obsess over every remark, possible insult, slight or rejection they have ever experienced. They can torment themselves with upset...

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Damage Control: Effective Relationship Repairs to Use Often

Happy couples fight, slam doors, walk off, and put up emotional walls. People do things they shouldn’t do. Partners say things they regret. Relationships get messy. No matter how many relationship counseling blogs you read, bullet points you memorize, or...

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Why Couples Therapy Makes Sense When You’re Happy

Most couples come to therapy when it is almost too late. Things have gotten to a point where spouses may be so fed up with each other that they feel they need to either get help or get divorced. A...

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