Remember when you couldn’t wait to lavish the one you loved with a million kindnesses, big and small? Once upon a time, the idea of being compassionate, thoughtful and self-sacrificing was not difficult. It wasn’t an imposition. It wasn’t an...

No couple is immune to tough times, especially in today's world. Every relationship suffers some level of stress, loss, transition, upset, and negativity. What is your marriage facing? Poor health, job or a career crisis? The loss of a parent or...

Everyone makes mistakes. It is an old cliché but completely true for all of us. When dealing with a spouse or partner, however, the question becomes how bad of a mistake has been made and whether the person who made...

There are many statistical predictors of divorce such as: if your parents were divorced you stand a 40% chance of getting divorced; or if there are significant money problems and large debt, your marriage runs a higher risk of...

Stalemates happen. You and your partner have talked an issue to death. You’ve made your case. They’ve made theirs. So you say the words. “Alright, let’s just agree to disagree.” Seems like a good idea. It’s clearly a happier alternative to escalating the...

If you try looking up the term “Codependent" in a diagnostic manual or psychiatric handbook you will not find it listed as a psychiatric disorder or condition. In fact, you will not find it listed on the National Institute of...

Sexual betrayal can cause shame, sadness, and mistrust in a relationship. It is also quite common. According to one study, roughly 30% to 60% of all married individuals in the United States will engage in infidelity at some point. When an...

Most of us have heard the expression that a person is “his own worst critic”. We often do not give ourselves enough credit for performing well and regularly beat ourselves up for not performing better. For some of us it...

Your marriage is much more than sex. But what do you do when your union involves no sex at all? With no end in sight? It certainly did not start out that way! No doubt, you have realized that your...

Lack of communication is one of the most frequent complaints cited by couples coming to counseling offices. Communication of course is multi-faceted and may mean different things to different people. It is clearly not just the words partners say to...