How Not to Break Up When the Going Gets Tough

No couple is immune to tough times. Every relationship suffers some level of stress, loss, transition, upset, and negativity. What is your marriage facing? Poor health or a career crisis? The loss of a parent or child? Is a financial crisis...

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The Top 10 Tips to Creating a Great Relationship

Lack of communication is one of the most frequent complaints cited by couples coming to counseling offices. Communication of course is multi-faceted and may mean different things to different people. It is clearly not just the words partners say to...

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Why Valentine’s Day Matters and How to Make the Most of It

Google Valentine’s Day and you will be struck by a wealth of Valentine's articles, advice, and discussion not really focused on couples at all. Instead, the headlines read this way:       "Valentine’s Day: Just another Way to Prolong Holiday Spending"       "How...

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The Long Road Back: Making Amends for Bad Behavior

Everyone makes mistakes. It is an old cliché but completely true for all of us. When dealing with a spouse or partner, however, the question becomes how bad of a mistake has been made and whether the person who made...

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After an Affair: 5 Musts for Marriage Repair

When an affair rocks the security of your marriage, it can be a disaster. Emotions like anger, denial, confusion, betrayal and bitterness can, in an instant, replace what you may have thought to be a loving relationship. The damage is undeniable. Much...

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How to Have a Difficult Conversation

We tend to avoid difficult conversations for many reasons. We may be afraid to start a fight; we may think we would be rejected or misunderstood; we don’t want to annoy; maybe the point we would like to make...

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5 Effective Ways to Initiate & Get Good Sex Going

The promise of “good sex” always gets attention. You want it. Your partner wants it. And, perhaps, your relationship hasn’t experienced much of it lately. Perhaps you’re still trying to experience it for the first time. Maybe you're even...

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Relationships: What it Takes to Agree to Disagree

Stalemates happen. You and your partner have talked an issue to death. You’ve made your case. They’ve made theirs. So you say the words. “Alright, let’s just agree to disagree.” Seems like a good idea. It’s clearly a happier alternative to escalating emotion...

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Are Sexual Expectations Getting in the Way of A Good Time?

So you know what you want in bed and you know who you want to do it with. Great. At least it should be great. But somehow, what you want sexually never really seems to happen the way you think it...

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The Top 7 Benefits of Being a Kinder Spouse

Remember when you couldn’t wait to lavish the one you loved with a million kindnesses, big and small? Once upon a time, the idea of being compassionate, thoughtful and self-sacrificing was not difficult. It wasn’t an imposition. It wasn’t an...

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