After an Affair: 5 Musts for Marriage Repair

When an affair rocks the security of your marriage, it can be a disaster. Emotions like anger, denial, confusion, betrayal and bitterness can, in an instant, replace what you may have thought to be a loving relationship. The damage is undeniable. Much...

Continue reading →

6 Strategies to Make the Most of Making Up

In any relationship, unhappy interactions happen. Doors slam, voices raise, silent treatment ensues, and partners roll over without saying good night. Making up and making peace is an integral part of a successful marriage. To make up well is to employ...

Continue reading →

Troubled Marriage? Here Are the Top Divorce Predictors

There are many interesting statistical predictors of divorce such as: if your parents were divorced you stand a 40% chance of getting divorced; or if there are significant money problems and large debt your marriage runs a high risk...

Continue reading →

How to Improve Your Marriage and Spice up Your Sex Life

Pet scans of the brains of people at the beginning of their relationship show areas of the brain lit up like Christmas tree lights. New lovers are chemically charged for sex and their feelings are like powerful magnets bringing...

Continue reading →

Reality Check, The Distressing Truth About Divorce

Couples often come to my office for counseling when they are just about at the end of their patience with each other. They have either been arguing uncontrollably, been distant and avoidant or perhaps just tired and bored with their...

Continue reading →

Affairs, Cheating and Infidelity: Truth and Myths

The Reality of Infidelity You can either be shocked by an infidelity, become devastated and make hasty decisions about what to do or try to understand why it happened and learn from it. Although it is obviously very difficult for the...

Continue reading →

Bitter, Hurt Feelings? How to Forgive Your Spouse…

It should come as no surprise to anyone that an angry resentful person is no fun to be with. In fact most people would prefer to be far away from anyone who tends to project those types of feelings. What...

Continue reading →

Why Do People Cheat and Have Affairs?

Infidelity…unfaithfulness... cheating.  Most people can immediately relate to the meaning of any of those terms. Essentially they mean that a partner or spouse is having or has had an affair. An affair can be sexual or emotional. It is a...

Continue reading →

How to Cope After Discovering an Affair

You have learned that your partner has had an affair. It is a hurt unlike any you have ever experienced. How do you handle it? The Beginning Once an affair has been discovered, the aftermath can be very ugly. If there...

Continue reading →

How to Rebuild Trust After an Affair

There has been an affair and it has been exposed. You and your spouse are in turmoil. There are so many emotions that you are torn from one moment to the next. What do you do? When trust is damaged...

Continue reading →