Why Valentine’s Day Matters and How to Make the Most of It

Google Valentine’s Day and you will be struck by a wealth of Valentine's articles, advice, and discussion not really focused on couples at all. Instead, the headlines read this way:       "Valentine’s Day: Just another Way to Prolong Holiday Spending"       "How...

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The Long Road Back: Making Amends for Bad Behavior

Everyone makes mistakes. It is an old cliché but completely true for all of us. When dealing with a spouse or partner, however, the question becomes how bad of a mistake has been made and whether the person who made...

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How to Keep Financial Fights From Ruining Your Marriage

Are money problems in your marriage driving a contentious wedge between you? Are you considering marriage counseling to try and stop the constant bickering about spending, debt, and monetary infidelity? You’re not alone. Unfortunately, financial fights are frequently named as a...

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How to Have a Difficult Conversation

We tend to avoid difficult conversations for many reasons. We may be afraid to start a fight; we may think we would be rejected or misunderstood; we don’t want to annoy; maybe the point we would like to make...

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Power Play: What to Do About Inequality in Your Relationship

Some relationships reflect differences in expression, ability, or effort. It’s possible to view these differences just as brief chapters in your larger, mutually loving story. However, there are other relationships which remain unbalanced for too long and aren’t fair; ever. In those...

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Relationships: What it Takes to Agree to Disagree

Stalemates happen. You and your partner have talked an issue to death. You’ve made your case. They’ve made theirs. So you say the words. “Alright, let’s just agree to disagree.” Seems like a good idea. It’s clearly a happier alternative to escalating emotion...

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Are Sexual Expectations Getting in the Way of A Good Time?

So you know what you want in bed and you know who you want to do it with. Great. At least it should be great. But somehow, what you want sexually never really seems to happen the way you think it...

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The Top 7 Benefits of Being a Kinder Spouse

Remember when you couldn’t wait to lavish the one you loved with a million kindnesses, big and small? Once upon a time, the idea of being compassionate, thoughtful and self-sacrificing was not difficult. It wasn’t an imposition. It wasn’t an...

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How to Maximize Small Gestures and Fleeting Moments in Your Marriage

Blow me a kiss from across the room Say I look nice when I'm not Touch my hair as you pass my chair Little things mean a lot Give me your arm as we cross the street Call me...

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Overcoming Resentments: The Path to Freedom and Better Health

How Resentments Hurt You Some people spend too much time thinking about what bad things may have been done to them. They obsess over every remark, possible insult, slight or rejection they have ever experienced. They can torment themselves with upset...

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