If you look up the term “Codependent" in a diagnostic manual or psychiatric handbook you will not find it listed as a psychiatric disorder or condition. In fact, you will not find it listed on the National Institute of Mental...

Couples often come to my office for counseling when they are just about at the end of their patience with each other. They have either been arguing uncontrollably, been distant and withdrawn or perhaps just tired and bored with their...

Remember when you couldn’t wait to lavish the one you loved with a million kindnesses, big and small? Once upon a time, the idea of being compassionate, thoughtful and self-sacrificing was not difficult. It wasn’t an imposition. It wasn’t an...

Most of us have heard the expression, "love is blind". It is a way of explaining why, when we are in love, we tend to overlook the negatives in our partners and focus only on the positives. When two people...

Type in “a better sex life” on your laptop or smartphone. Your search engine is likely generous with responses (more than 2 billion pages on Google). Some helpful, some not, and some downright disturbing.  But the thousands of listed blog posts,...

No couple is immune to tough times, especially in today's world. Every relationship suffers some level of stress, loss, transition, upset, and negativity. What is your marriage facing? Poor health, job or a career crisis? The loss of a parent or...

Everyone makes mistakes. It is an old cliché but completely true for all of us. When dealing with a spouse or partner, however, the question becomes how bad of a mistake has been made and whether the person who made...

There are many statistical predictors of divorce in an unhealthy relationship, such as: if your parents were divorced you stand a 40% chance of getting divorced; or if there are significant money problems and large debt, your marriage runs...

Stalemates happen. You and your partner have talked an issue to death. You’ve made your case. They’ve made theirs. So you say the words. “Alright, let’s just agree to disagree.” Seems like a good idea. It’s clearly a happier alternative to escalating the...

In an article I wrote about midlife crisis in men and male menopause, I talked about how the crisis in mid-life is mostly a psychological one. Of course, there are also very real physical issues that men face as they...