Agreeing To Disagree, A Path To Conflict Resolution

Stalemates happen. You and your partner have talked an issue to death. You’ve made your case. They’ve made theirs. So you say the words. “Alright, let’s just agree to disagree.” Seems like a good idea. It’s clearly a happier alternative to escalating the...

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Is Perfectionism Good Or Bad?

A new client came to see me recently and explained that he finds it very hard to decide almost anything. The more important the decision the more he agonizes. He wants every decision to be “perfect”. He is often petrified...

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What Is Cheating? What Counts And What Doesn’t.

For the sake of clarity, let us define cheating as having an intimate emotional or physical/sexual relationship with someone outside of your love relationship. This definition is meant to clear up the idea that some may have about what it...

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How Can Creative Thinking Be Improved?

We tend to admire creative people. We think of them as artists, writers, performers or great thinkers like philosophers, mathematicians or even super successful business types. We often hold them apart from us as if they have been mysteriously touched and...

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Are You Defensive? How We Protect Ourselves From Ourselves!

Most of us have been accused of “being defensive” at one time or another. Defending yourself is a natural process which can happen automatically. However our psychological defenses, the Defense Mechanisms,  serve to protect us from ourselves. Seems like a strange...

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How To Make A Blended Family Work – The Top 7 Tips

Here’s an interesting statistic: sixteen percent of children in the United States live in step families (also known as a blended family). Moreover, it is likely that more than 40-50% of all adults will have a blended relationship at some...

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Is It Realistic To Expect Happiness?

Everyone wants to be happy…don’t you?  “I just want to be happy” is probably the number one answer to the question, “What do you want out of life”? The pursuit of happiness is a phrase with which we are all...

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The Top 10 Signs Of Midlife Crisis

In an article I wrote about midlife crisis in men and male menopause, I talked about how the crisis in mid-life is mostly a psychological one. Of course, there are also very real physical issues that men face as they...

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Anger Is Not Always What It Seems! (How Anger Management Therapy Helps)

Research in the field of psychology has been painting a more complete picture of anger. We typically understand anger as an expression of frustration or annoyance or a response to a threat of some kind. Anger can also be a defense...

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After Sexual Betrayal: How Can Marriage Counseling Help?

Sexual betrayal can cause shame, sadness, and mistrust in a relationship. It is also quite common. According to one study, roughly 30% to 60% of all married individuals in the United States will engage in infidelity at some point. When an...

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