Agreeing To Disagree, A Path To Conflict Resolution

Stalemates happen. You and your partner have talked an issue to death. You’ve made your case. They’ve made theirs. So you say the words. “Alright, let’s just agree to disagree.” Seems like a good idea. It’s clearly a happier alternative to escalating the...

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Is Perfectionism Good Or Bad?

A new client came to see me recently and explained that he finds it very hard to decide almost anything. The more important the decision the more he agonizes. He wants every decision to be “perfect”. He is often petrified...

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What Is Cheating? What Counts And What Doesn’t.

For the sake of clarity, let us define cheating as having an intimate emotional or physical/sexual relationship with someone outside of your love relationship. This definition is meant to clear up the idea that some may have about what it...

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How Can Creative Thinking Be Improved?

We tend to admire creative people. We think of them as artists, writers, performers or great thinkers like philosophers, mathematicians or even super successful business types. We often hold them apart from us as if they have been mysteriously touched and...

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How Memory Works And How To Improve Your Own Memory

The mysteries of the brain intrigue most of us. That 3-pound mass of grey matter with its 100 billion neurons protected by a relatively puny bony structure (the skull)  literally operates everything. The brain process we seem to be most...

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Am I Codependent? Take The Codependency Quiz

If you try looking up the term “Codependent" in a diagnostic manual or psychiatric handbook you will not find it listed as a psychiatric disorder or condition. In fact, you will not find it listed on the National Institute of...

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Are You Defensive? How We Protect Ourselves From Ourselves!

Most of us have been accused of “being defensive” at one time or another. Defending yourself is a natural process which can happen automatically. However our psychological defenses, the Defense Mechanisms,  serve to protect us from ourselves. Seems like a strange...

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Eating Disorders In Men (How It Develops)

We live in a society where food has many meanings. We use it not only to nourish our bodies but to manage our emotions. It is both comforting and stimulating. It makes us happy and calms our nerves. Eating may...

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How To Make A Blended Family Work – The Top 7 Tips

Here’s an interesting statistic: sixteen percent of children in the United States live in step families (also known as a blended family). Moreover, it is likely that more than 40-50% of all adults will have a blended relationship at some...

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Is It Realistic To Expect Happiness?

Everyone wants to be happy…don’t you?  “I just want to be happy” is probably the number one answer to the question, “What do you want out of life”? The pursuit of happiness is a phrase with which we are all...

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